Loans between family and friends can get complicated
Tuesday, 01 December 2009 00:00
When your best friend views your nest egg as a source of start-up funds for his latest business venture, or your nephew hits you up for a car loan, your first impulse may be to reach into your bank account to help. But it's a fact that loans to family and friends often end up straining both finances and relationships. As Shakespeare said, "Loan oft loses both itself and friend." In other words, if you lend money to friends, you often don't get paid back and the friendship itself may disintegrate.
It's best to consider a loan to someone you love as an "arm's length" transaction. If you're pondering such a loan, keep the following in mind:
- You can just say "no." It's your money, after all. Do you really want to raid an emergency fund or dip into your child's college account to finance a friend's business idea? Think like a bank. It's reasonable to ask tough questions about the person's bank accounts, potential sources of income, planned use of loan proceeds, and spending habits before extending credit.
- Consider a gift. If you're comfortable sharing your resources, you may want to provide a monetary gift with no strings attached. In many cases, this is the best solution because neither you nor your friend expect the money to be paid back. Unlike a loan, this type of arrangement can forestall misunderstandings and hurt feelings later on. Of course, you should not give money if doing so would unduly strain your own finances.
- Formalize loans. If you decide to lend more than a small amount to a friend or family member, it's generally best to draft a written agreement. This can be as simple as filling out a promissory note (available online or at office supply stores). Such forms spell out the basic terms of the loan — amount, interest rate, payback period — and provide some limited protection should you and the borrower end up in small claims court. Another recent innovation is the use of direct lending (also called social lending or peer-to-peer lending) websites to facilitate loans between family and friends. For a fee, such sites can prepare loan documentation, send payment reminders, issue regular reports, even facilitate electronic fund transfers.
Remember: Many personal relationships have been damaged when loans go awry. So proceed with caution.
How to use credit cards wisely
Sunday, 01 November 2009 00:00
Back in your grandfather's day, folks didn't have to worry about the ins and outs of mutual funds, adjustable rate mortgages, and credit cards. Such options simply weren't available, so when people wanted to buy something — a car, a house, furniture — they saved for it. Not so today. In today's microwave, fast food, gotta-have-it-now society, credit cards are widely available and widely used. Though credit (especially for larger purchases) is not as readily available as it was a few years back, many people still find at least one credit card offer a week in their mailbox.
If you choose to open that envelope, fill out the application form, and carry that little plastic card in your purse or wallet, it pays to be careful. Here are three simple guidelines for using credit cards wisely.
- Don't just pay the minimum. You've heard this before. You go on a spending spree and charge $2,500 for a new wardrobe. If you make only minimum payments, you could take up to eight years to pay off your balance. If the credit card company charges an annual rate of 16%, you'll have racked up over $1,800 in interest charges. A good deal? Yes, for the card issuer. To avoid this pitfall, pay off as much as you can afford every month and don't use your card again until the balance is paid off.
- Avoid cash withdrawals. When withdrawing money from an automated teller machine, pull out your debit or ATM card. Using a credit card to get cash (also known as a cash advance) is a bad idea. Interest rates on such advances are typically higher than rates for purchases, sometimes several percentage points higher. The same holds true for those offers of "free money" in the mail. ("Just sign this check and the money's yours.") In reality, such checks are loans with high interest rates. A good place for such offers is the shredding machine.
- Don't overspend. Many studies have shown that people tend to spend more when using credit cards than when paying with cash. So be careful. If you can't really afford that big screen television this month, do the prudent thing and save for it.
We can't turn back the clock to our grandfather's era. But we can learn from him to cultivate wise spending habits, especially when using credit cards.






